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9 Last Minute Valentine’s Day Ideas

Valentine’s Day is already here with us guys. I cannot explain the number of chocolates and flowers I am seeing everywhere I go it’s making me dizzy (Wonderful dizzy). Restaurants are jam packed and the traffic is crazy. Hawkers are in every corner of Nairobi town selling pretty teddy bears, pink and red hearts and flowers. I have been married for 3 years now and I have come to understand that Valentine’s Day represents love, calmness, and joy.

Just because it’s Valentines doesn’t mean it has to be a nerve-racking day. A lot of people take Valentine’s Day as a matter of life and death – literally. Females will put unreasonable demands to their males and vice verse. Men on their side will feel the pressure of spending money that maybe they don’t have to meet the demands of their better halves. This is a day and moment of love and sharing and catching up.

Here is the ultimate list of Valentine’s date creative ideas I have compiled for you that will give you a memorable, fun and stress-free date.

Buy gifts
It’s Valentine’s Day after all. By all means, if you can, go all the way. Buy the boxes chocolates, flowers wine and everything and enjoy yourselves.

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Take kids to your parents and stay home
Find a relative or a babysitter to stay with your kids for a few hours. This way, you will have some free time to relax with your partner, cuddle on the couch and watch a movie, order take out (pizza). This is a guaranteed, romantic hustle free Valentine’s day.

Volunteer
Valentines doesn’t have to be all gilts, glamor, flowers and chocolates. You can work together to clean up the environment by helping with river or park clearing up. You’ll feel proud of the work that you will have accomplished.

Plan an Outdoor Activity
This a great way to stay active and keep fit. You can go for swimming, camping, walking, fishing, hiking and rock climbing.

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Plan an Indoor Activity
You can bake together, learn how to make homemade chocolate from online, cook foreign meals or play chess or any other game that you love. It’s fun and exciting to spend the day just the two of you and reconnect.

Visit the Park
I can mention a few places you can go with your partner and just have a nice quiet time together. There is Nairobi National Park if you’re in Mombasa; you can go to Haller ParkHaller Park just to mention a few. Here you are free to talk, eat, laugh, feed some watch and take photos of wild animals and go on nature trails. It’s a fun and memorable experience.

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Have Valentine’s Day party
Valentine’s Day is not limited to your partner alone. You can invite friends over for a nice small get together. Have each person carry a dish and drink or you can provide for them. Create lovely memories with your friend and laugh the day or night away.

Picnic      
Cook a nice fancy meal. Google the recipe if you must, pack up some nice wine, food, fruits, and bread. Doesn’t have to be fancy; you can do sandwiches, or just buy fast food and enjoy your meal as you watch other lovebirds enjoy their Valentine’s Day as well. It’s a perfectly romantic Valentine’s Day.

Got to the Beach
If you live near a beach. You, my friend, are the luckiest person I know. Just being at the beach is great and relaxing. Enjoying the water, tropical fruits and basking in the sun is everything in life.

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Go through Memory Boxes/Photographs
In this day and age, everyone has their photos stored on their smartphones and all these amazing storage software’s that have come up. But having the old school way of storing images is still a great idea.

Spend the day arranging and going through the stories of your families. Look through images, a joke at the reminders you come across and appreciate how far you’ve come together. It’s cute and romantic to stay up to date with your past.

Valentine’s Day is all about relaxation and enjoying the company of your loved ones despite the situation you’re currently in and create some amazing memories.

Do you have other ideas for outdoor or indoor activities that you have and would like us to experience? Please share in the comment section.

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Handmade Swahili Leather Sandals

Today, I decided to share with you some of my African handmade sandals inspiration. I’m online most of the time for work and projects. So in my ‘me’ (personal) time, I like to step back and roam the streets of Nairobi listening to Podcasts. I’m a Podcast fanatic. I literally have a lot of them on my phone. I love listening to Neil Patel and the likes journeys to their success and all.

Anyways, back to sandals. I used to spend hours searching for the perfect sandals. There are some sandals in Kamkunji, cute and glittery. But they are a major disappointment. You can only wear them once and that is the end of their lifespan. They are thin plastic, mass-produced sandals that I can’t even explain what torture you will go through wearing them.

I love comfortable sandals that I can wear with anything, anytime. And – African – handmade – sandals are the perfect answer to this dilemma. I especially love Swahili/ Masaai hand-made sandals. They are beautiful, colorful and comfortable beaded sandals that are skillfully and carefully designed on soft but solid leather straps to create STUNNING sandals.

They come in a variety of different designs and today will focus on the beaded sandals. The Swahili/ Masaai handmade shoes are perfect for picnics outing; beach walks, nature trails and hanging out at home.

Materials
Leather straps

Beads

  • Made from a variety of different colorful Maasai beads.

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Finished product

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You should visit the Maasai markets. You will be overwhelmed by the diversity range they have in store for you. Maybe you like certain sandals but you don’t exactly like the color of beads assembled. Here is the best part. You can have something custom-made to your taste and preference.

How to Travel Around the World and Get Free or Cheap Accommodation

Who here wants to travel the world this festive season or for the fun of it and has no money?

Anyone?

Okay. I will rephrase that question. Who here longs to travel the world but is on a tight budget?

Alright!

Let get started then. I don’t want to influence anyone’s pocket. But let’s face it, it’s December, the month of fun and parties and festivals. Hotels and resorts are going to be jam packed and quite expensive this festive season, but don’t let that stop you from enjoying your Christmas out of your comfort zone.

Maybe you want to travel to Mombasa from Kisumu, or Kenya to Ethiopia, Or even Europe and the West Africa and vice versa. You don’t have to be a millionaire to be a tourist’s by your rights.

Did you know that you can be hosted anywhere in the world and get free accommodation? I know right. Me too! I was ecstatic when I found out about this and I had to share with you, my friends.

I have compiled a detailed list of ways and websites you can get free and cheap accommodation across the world.

So sit back and read on tips on how to save money and get free and/or cheap accommodation around the world. (Unless you want to check into 5-star hotels) Please feel free to share with your friends, social network, and friends to give them hope that all hope is not lost. Lol

HOUSE SITTING

Trusted Housesitters
Homeowners assign his/her house to you and entrust you to watch over of their house or their pets and stay there for free under mutual agreement. There may be other responsibilities along the way as per the homeowner’s specifications such as (tending their plants etc. etc.)
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Membership Fee: $95.88 per year
Nomador
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Membership Fee: $89  per year

Housecarers
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Membership Fee: $50 per year Membership Fee: $50 per year

Airbnb
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Mind My House
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Membership Fee: $20 (Php 888+) per year

Tip
Make sure you have all the details straightened out between you and the homeowner since, for example, who’s responsibility it will be of covering the utility bills during your stay. Such as Wi-Fi, lights, water, etc., etc. You want to save as much as money as possible, so it’s only fair to yourself you have all these details before your stay.

Couch surfing
The term refers to the act of approving a stranger or friend to live/stay in your home for free, and they can use whatever space you have available; the floor, a spare room or couch. This way, you will enjoy meeting foreign people, free accommodation and experience the local city with your host.

In short, you can choose to be either a host or a ‘couch surfer, ’ and it’s free to connect with people globally who open to the couch and surfing arrangement.

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Membership Fee: None (FREE!)
Upgrades: $20 a year to get your account verified and gain more trust and contacts.

BeWelcome
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Membership Fee: None (FREE!)

Hospitality Club
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Membership Fee: None (FREE!)
Upgrades: None

Tip
Do a proper search on these websites, check out the reviews or testimonial section which will give you an idea of traveler or host you will be hosting in your house. Furthermore, couch-surfing websites normally have a verification system making trust and transparency between online members; therefore, I would recommend you search for hosts who have their profiles verified.

VOLUNTEER (JOB EXCHANGE)
Act of doing basic or skilled work for an institution or company and in return, they will give you free food and/or accommodation for your effort. These are establishments that are looking for travelers to work part time in sectors such as hostels, fruit farms, hotels, schools, bars, restaurants, etc. etc.

VolunteersBase
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Membership Fee: None (FREE!)

GrassRoots Volunteering
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Membership Fee: None (FREE!)

Picking jobs
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Membership Fee: Free

Work away info
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Membership Fee: $23  every 2 years

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Membership $9.99 one-time payment for lifetime membership

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Please Note Do Not take cash in exchange for the work you are volunteering to do. Keep in mind that you are volunteering and not working, otherwise. You will be required to get a work permit or work visa. Still, most institutions will offer you paid jobs even if you don/t have a work permit. In most countries, working in exchange for free accommodation and food is neither illegal nor legal

SHORT-TERM RENTALS 
This arrangement saves you from the cost and trouble of the usual rentals that normally want you to commit long-term (Months or years). Therefore, below is a list of websites that will give you not only more options but also a cheaper alternative.

Airbnb
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Trip Advisor
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Wimdu
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HomeAway
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HOME SWAPPING
Home exchanges, unlike house sitting, this arrangement means you will trade homes with someone from another country or city for an agreed period, — you will reside in their house, and she/he will live in yours. Most of these home exchange websites have set up their systems in a way that you cannot swap houses with another person at the same time line.

BedyCasa

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Home Stay

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BE AN AU PAIR
Being an AU PAIR is something you can consider in you want to stay in a foreign country for at least 5 months. The family that is interested in hosting/hiring you will expect you to do some light house around the jobs. In addition to that, they will give you an allowance and food.

CHEAP HOTELS, MOTELS & HOTELS
Now, you don’t want to do volunteering, I am assuming you have some little money from your travel budget to spend on accommodation, you might as well book yourself into the least expensive hotels, motels & hotels around the world. Here are some of the best websites to look in.

Hostel Combined 
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Hostel World
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Hostel Bookers
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GET IN TOUCH WITH PEOPLE YOU HAVE INTERACTED WITH AND KNOW AROUND THE WORLD.
Actually, this is the very first step you should take to get free accommodation during your travels. So get on it quickly and make those phone calls to your old family members and old friends to ask if they will be available on a, b, c days and if they will be willing to host you.

In my experience, don’t assume the relationship you have with them, whether they ask you to pay for the cost or not, as a courtesy, I would suggest a Thank You present when they accept your request to stay at their place.

There are so many options to cover on this topics and tips that I will be sharing with you as time goes by. For now, have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

Disclaimer
This website is for general information purposes only; reading of all information on this website is of your own free will and  it is written, managed, and edited only by me author (Celestin Chao)

Top 10 Secrets to Dating Younger Women

 

So today, I want us to address the ‘touchy-feely’ topic on older men dating younger women or vice versa.  Now, let’s get one thing clear here. I am not talking about younger women dating married men, nor am I encouraging such behavior.  But it has come to my consciousness that these days the knowledge of young women dating older men hardly raises an eyebrow.

Naturally, women who are younger have this clear, definite appeal that goes past the “physical beauty” when going out with older men; you get an entirely different FEELING. Younger women carry an amazing refreshing youthful and energetic air to all aspects of your life.

But first, we need to define, what we mean by “much younger women.” These girls are usually between the age of 20 – 25, and it’s very much possible to attract and date them.

I have observed with much amusement how older guys are going through a tough time trying to please these young ladies.

So if you’re an older guy – possibly between the ages of 30 – 40 – and you want to meet far younger women, here is my list of top 10 secrets to getting you started.

  1. Dress well
    A number of men between the ages of 35 – 40 are most likely faced with, uneven skin tone and a body out of shape and they have not given a second thought about their physical appearance. Unfortunately, they tend to try to keep up with the trends of the younger men in dressing. Making you look like a desperate and needy man.

    So just stop. Now is the time for creating a capsule wardrobe, investing in the smooth canvas of smart, high-quality, unique pieces that won’t hide your distinguishing features. You’re old and wise enough to know better.

  2. Be calm and relaxed
    When you come across a young woman you feel attracted to, and you stop acting like “yourself. “ you will perform all manner of things when you are nervous and start saying things like;

“Young people nowadays are so ____.

Thus, making your date feel uneasy and give her the Heebie-jeebies. So relax, take a deep breath and have a good time.

  1. Be open about your past
    Whether you are divorced, have kids or had a long stint in a sanctuary for the criminally insane. Obviously, there’s no one perfect, but just because she has not had the same experience, doesn’t mean that she won’t be able to relate to your issues and life; open up and she might surprise you with the wisdom and advice she has to offer.
  2. Watch how you talk
    Younger women tend to end up being attached to older men quickly and easily because they are not in control of their emotions. As a rule, avoid seeing her more than three times in a week if you can help it, and keep your interactions limited. Otherwise, she will end up being dependent on you.
  3. Don’t assume you know better
    Keep a check on your tone; you may think you have all the answers, but don’t be patronizing, be supportive instead. Otherwise, this will lead to additional arguments that you know you have little experience in handling them.
  4. Don’t be taken advantage of
    I’m saying this with much caution because unless, of course, you would like her too – it’s totally fine. This applies if you want a short relationship – VERY SHORT relationship.
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    Otherwise; you know what you are looking for, a young woman who is impressed by the size of your “heart” or “wallet”. This way, you will know when to meet her demands and when to avoid them. She is a woman after all, not a kid.

  5. Establish boundaries
    It’s obvious that you are older and in a different stage in life, so if you’re just enjoying a short relationship, make sure she isn’t shopping around for wedding dresses.

Also, if you’re getting attached and she’s probably leaving for her further studies overseas or something, for maybe a year or two, you should probably have a great time and not have the awkward conversation about “I want to spend the rest of my life with you.”

  1. Don’t take advantage
    Please, don’t be the “icky older man” that “tries something” with her. She has probably encountered one of those types of people.

That’s why, when you’re going out with a young woman, you have to be VERY-ALERT, funny and any unpredictable behavior will put her off for good.

If you attempt to take advantage of her or make a questionable move too early, you’ll alert her you have “pervert traits.” You will lose her trust, and she might end the relationship before it even begins.

  1. Don’t be possessive
    When courting younger women, keep in mind that they have their lives outside your relationship together. Don’t go to see her unexpectedly at her workplace. Don’t embarrass her unless you want an attractive young woman to disappear from your life because of your insecurities.
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  2. Be the Leader
    As a rule, women aren’t impressed by men who don’t take charge, and that rule applies to younger women too. In most cases, younger women do not have a sense of the right direction in their lives and you being the older and wise. Make the right and informed decisions.
  3. Expect change in her as time goes by
    In case you are going out with a younger woman, keep in mind that her life will keep changing over the next couple of years. Expect and encourage growth, and urge her to follow her dreams and become who she wants to be.

It has been said that girls mature faster than guys; furthermore, research has shown that younger women prefer to date older men. And that is proven by the trend nowadays, seems like older men are like gold dust on the dating scene right now. After all, age is nothing but a number. Learn to enjoy life. You only live once.

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