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Top 10 Secrets to Dating Younger Women

 

So today, I want us to address the ‘touchy-feely’ topic on older men dating younger women or vice versa.  Now, let’s get one thing clear here. I am not talking about younger women dating married men, nor am I encouraging such behavior.  But it has come to my consciousness that these days the knowledge of young women dating older men hardly raises an eyebrow.

Naturally, women who are younger have this clear, definite appeal that goes past the “physical beauty” when going out with older men; you get an entirely different FEELING. Younger women carry an amazing refreshing youthful and energetic air to all aspects of your life.

But first, we need to define, what we mean by “much younger women.” These girls are usually between the age of 20 – 25, and it’s very much possible to attract and date them.

I have observed with much amusement how older guys are going through a tough time trying to please these young ladies.

So if you’re an older guy – possibly between the ages of 30 – 40 – and you want to meet far younger women, here is my list of top 10 secrets to getting you started.

  1. Dress well
    A number of men between the ages of 35 – 40 are most likely faced with, uneven skin tone and a body out of shape and they have not given a second thought about their physical appearance. Unfortunately, they tend to try to keep up with the trends of the younger men in dressing. Making you look like a desperate and needy man.

    So just stop. Now is the time for creating a capsule wardrobe, investing in the smooth canvas of smart, high-quality, unique pieces that won’t hide your distinguishing features. You’re old and wise enough to know better.

  2. Be calm and relaxed
    When you come across a young woman you feel attracted to, and you stop acting like “yourself. “ you will perform all manner of things when you are nervous and start saying things like;

“Young people nowadays are so ____.

Thus, making your date feel uneasy and give her the Heebie-jeebies. So relax, take a deep breath and have a good time.

  1. Be open about your past
    Whether you are divorced, have kids or had a long stint in a sanctuary for the criminally insane. Obviously, there’s no one perfect, but just because she has not had the same experience, doesn’t mean that she won’t be able to relate to your issues and life; open up and she might surprise you with the wisdom and advice she has to offer.
  2. Watch how you talk
    Younger women tend to end up being attached to older men quickly and easily because they are not in control of their emotions. As a rule, avoid seeing her more than three times in a week if you can help it, and keep your interactions limited. Otherwise, she will end up being dependent on you.
  3. Don’t assume you know better
    Keep a check on your tone; you may think you have all the answers, but don’t be patronizing, be supportive instead. Otherwise, this will lead to additional arguments that you know you have little experience in handling them.
  4. Don’t be taken advantage of
    I’m saying this with much caution because unless, of course, you would like her too – it’s totally fine. This applies if you want a short relationship – VERY SHORT relationship.
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    Otherwise; you know what you are looking for, a young woman who is impressed by the size of your “heart” or “wallet”. This way, you will know when to meet her demands and when to avoid them. She is a woman after all, not a kid.

  5. Establish boundaries
    It’s obvious that you are older and in a different stage in life, so if you’re just enjoying a short relationship, make sure she isn’t shopping around for wedding dresses.

Also, if you’re getting attached and she’s probably leaving for her further studies overseas or something, for maybe a year or two, you should probably have a great time and not have the awkward conversation about “I want to spend the rest of my life with you.”

  1. Don’t take advantage
    Please, don’t be the “icky older man” that “tries something” with her. She has probably encountered one of those types of people.

That’s why, when you’re going out with a young woman, you have to be VERY-ALERT, funny and any unpredictable behavior will put her off for good.

If you attempt to take advantage of her or make a questionable move too early, you’ll alert her you have “pervert traits.” You will lose her trust, and she might end the relationship before it even begins.

  1. Don’t be possessive
    When courting younger women, keep in mind that they have their lives outside your relationship together. Don’t go to see her unexpectedly at her workplace. Don’t embarrass her unless you want an attractive young woman to disappear from your life because of your insecurities.
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  2. Be the Leader
    As a rule, women aren’t impressed by men who don’t take charge, and that rule applies to younger women too. In most cases, younger women do not have a sense of the right direction in their lives and you being the older and wise. Make the right and informed decisions.
  3. Expect change in her as time goes by
    In case you are going out with a younger woman, keep in mind that her life will keep changing over the next couple of years. Expect and encourage growth, and urge her to follow her dreams and become who she wants to be.

It has been said that girls mature faster than guys; furthermore, research has shown that younger women prefer to date older men. And that is proven by the trend nowadays, seems like older men are like gold dust on the dating scene right now. After all, age is nothing but a number. Learn to enjoy life. You only live once.

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Prayer Request for all the Candidates Sitting for their Kenya National Examinations

It’s that time of the year again; finals exams are here candidates are doing their last minute preparations to prepare for their exams. I was in that position once. I know the feeling all too well. I wasn’t one of those students thrilled to do any exam. I mean, who is?

In addition to this, there are so many activities going on that can either make you or break you. So, before we have this extraordinary prayer, I would like to point out a few things first.

Parents; I know you are entitled to your children’s success and all. After all, you have been paying the bills and taking care of them. But here’s the thing, there is so much you can do for them in this last weeks. Some of you parents have resulted to threatening your candidates with unimaginable punishment if they fail (exams they have not taken yet) or threaten to withdraw certain privileges is very unfair. It’s time to support, love, pray and encourage your kids.

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Psalm 121:2
My help comes from the Lordthe Maker of heaven and earth.

Life is full of opportunities, if you nature your children’s talents then you might end up with the likes Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey, Tabitha Mukami Muigai Karanja and Aliko Dangote of this world. Another thing, please, I beg you. I know some or all of you parents, guardian’s and have siblings have sent out messages to everyone and on your phone book letting them know your brother, sister, son or daughter is a candidate this year and they deserve a success card from you.faiith

I know I have gotten A LOT of those messages. Get me right here, I am not against us sending our children success card for a little boost of morale, but let’s be honest with ourselves for a minute. These cards don’t have answers in them. It is after all your kid’s responsibility to have prepared and revised enough for the exam.

So stop with the ultimatum’s and pettiness of so and so did not send my kid a card so I am canceling them from my friend list. Or I won’t talk to my relatives for some time because of the same. Duh! This is not the time to be at crossroads with relatives or friends and spread negative energy all over.

Kindly ask for a word of prayer for their health, success and prosperity. No need to get worked up in case some will not be able to send the cards, judging by the fact that your kid is definitely not the only one sitting for their KCSE OR KCPE.

This is for my two brothers doing their KCSE and all the candidates:17398_10205765046597481_2640666146829619107_n

Guys, congratulations for working hard and been able to reach this crucial time in your life. I do wish you the very best in your exams. This time to sit back and reflect all the knowledge you’ve gained in the past few successful years. That, or completely freak out and find excuses to do anything other than revision. Please, please go in the exam room and know you are not doing them for your parents, siblings, relatives, teachers, school or any other person. You are doing these exams for you and only you.

Secondly, don’t be too engrossed in counting how many cards you have gotten, there’s this favorite  aunt of yours who had promised to send you a card but it never arrived. So you end you getting frustrated and start panicking for no reason. My point being, do you. Whether you receive zero, one or a million cards, they are meant to boost your morale. Trust me; those things don’t come with answers written inside. So work hard, pray, revise and have faith in yourself.faith

Now, with that said, let us pray, please.

Father in heaven, thank you for the gift of good health, life and love that you have shown us. In this examination season dear Lord, we put all our candidates in all fields, whether KCSE, KCPE, university exams, literally, any exams. Lord provide for them, I speak victory in their exams, may all the things they have read all this year be revealed to them in clear memories in Jesus name. We cancel any kinds of illness, laziness, anxiety, stress and negative thinking in Jesus name. May the Holy Spirit guide all their paths in all the days of their lives and may they find peace in your presence.

I declare victory in their lives, their exams, their future, their families and their schools. May everything they touch into GOLD in Jesus mighty name we do pray and also believe.

The world is yours to conquer. Cheers!

Be blessed,

Chao.

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