Two years ago, nearly today, I started this blog. I had all these great ideas I wanted to implement and information I wanted to share with the online community. Along the way, I lost my zeal.
I wrote a few posts and suddenly stopped. As a matter of fact, a lot of changes took place in my personal life, both good and not so great. I felt incredibly overwhelmed, and I just stopped focusing on what was important.
I took a step back to look at my life and the route it was taking. And I decided it was time I made a complete overhaul in all areas of my life. I started reading and absorbing messages from personal development books and listening to audios of my favorite speakers.
I have compiled a list of the steps I have taken in my life, and I hope they will somehow help you to have the best years of your experience from now on.
Divorce your toxic friends and family members
I don’t know about you, but I was surrounded by toxic friends, colleagues and family members who were consciously or unconsciously complaining, angry, frustrated and manipulative.
I was once the type to carry everyone’s problems and burdens. not to mention all the efforts and time I put to people who did not value me. I came to realize that sometimes it’s okay to put a safe distance away from all the drama and negative energy.
I now focus on me and dedicate my strength to those who value my input in their lives, time and love.
Okay, so this one I am still struggling with it. I know fitness is easy peasy for most people, but I am not in that category. I bought a rope, and I have a treading machine. I used to stare at it for close to 30 minutes and visualize I am exercising.
And then I would go about with other things. Silly right? Talk about taking visualization to the next level. Anyway, nowadays I try to do at least 30 minutes of exercise, and I am reaping the benefits.
I am not a religious person per say. I am not the type who will be all over your face with verses and judging your life choices and all the annoying stuff some religious people partake. Instead, I like to think of myself as a spiritual person. I pray to God. I speak to the universe.
I listen to Zen meditation music. I practice and believe in energy healing, reiki, and the likes, I meditate, and I just pick what I feel what works for me from this group of people or religion and work with it. I practice yoga; I love the energy and healing crystals. I am a sucker for candles. I just love creating a space where I feel at peace with positive energy and thoughts.
I recently got news of a very close family member of mine was diagnosed with a terminal illness. I was devastated. I would go to the hospital where she was admitted and see sick people all around, and negative thoughts clouded my mind.
I was bad energy and not helping the situation at all. But I started to meditate, clearing my mind, taking deep breaths, and being aware of my surroundings. I am now very good at it. I have the right mindset and I am at peace with any tough situation that might come my way because I know it too shall come to pass.
I have categorized my goals in terms of big goals and small daily goals, and I have all of them written down. And I commit myself and time to deliver and achieve my goals. When I reach my goal and surpass my expectations, I am motivated to do more, and this gives me so much energy, happiness, and satisfaction.
Block social media accounts
This is the greatest addiction and distraction of all time. To me at least. I used to plan to do a task, and then I end up with numerous tabs open and watching YouTube videos (music) irrelevant stuff that is not related to my current goal or activity. I, therefore, end up wasting my time and energy for absolutely nothing. I would peep on Facebook or Instagram to catch on the latest news, friend’s posts, and then read the comments under the posts.
Being happy and loving myself
Am genuinely satisfied. After getting rid of most of the things keeping me back. Despite whatever may come my way, I am a happy person. I wrote a fun, motivating and accomplished letter to my future self.
Here is a link futureme.org or lettertomyfutureself.net, it’s fun, and you get to live with the reasonable and high expectations you have put or envisioned yourself to achieve. I love myself. I don’t compare myself and achievements with others. I take care of my body, I have enough rest. I am not fixated on solving all aspects of my life at one go.
Get away from your comfort zone, from your desktop and go outside for a walk or run. If you can manage to set aside a few days to travel, that will be a bonus. I travel a lot and meet interesting people and made good friends. This has opened my eyes to the possibilist of achieving great things in life. And I have more inspiration for my dreams and goals.
I love paper books. But when I can’t help it, I log in to my Kindle or good reads and absorb myself in a great book. Also, I love listening to podcasts and audiobooks.
Delete social media accounts
I had numerous irrelevant apps on my phone. I got rid of all the unnecessary apps. And my phone and mind appreciate me for that.
This is my favorite. Most people don’t believe in this kind of stuff, but it has worked out for me numerous times. The I AM affirmations.
I AM HEALTHY
I AM STRONG
I AM HAPPY I AM GRATEFUL
I AM etc.…
Keeping a daily journal
I enjoy filling out my diary with details of my daily activities and achievements. It keeps me focused and committed and some say it helps you become a better writer.
Yep. I have one too. It’s kind of silly when I started thinking about it but when I read on the power behind having a vision board. I also made one for myself. And every time I look at it I remember my WHY of doing what I am doing.
You need to ask yourself the following questions before embarking on the journey.
What is your life’s purpose?
Are you happy with your current situation?
What is the most important thing to you?
What do you want to achieve?
Who are you doing it for?
Life is phenomenal. Life is beautiful. Despite everything that has passed in my life all the good and the bad. I am grateful because they have all taught me great lessons on life.
Nowadays I smile to people more often, because everyone is going through their journey whether challenging or exciting. I am more aware of my surroundings. I have positive thoughts, and I always attract good circumstances and people in my life.